請問，你富有嗎？
有一個家財萬貫的富翁快死了，死神來接他走，他問死神:「我死後會上天堂還是地獄？」死神跟他說：「地獄。」富翁很不服氣，他說：「怎麼會是地獄呢？我捐錢蓋了好幾座教堂，還捐很多錢給教會，怎麼會是下地獄，我不服氣！」「你不服氣嗎？那好，我給你一週的時間，如果你可以收集到三個真心笑容，我就讓你上天堂。」富翁很得意，他心想，要三個真心笑容還不簡單？死神走後，富翁想了一下，要得到真心笑容，就從自己結髮四十年的老婆開始，會比較容易一點。於是富翁就花了很多錢買了一條鑽石項鍊，這是他老婆以前就很想要的，然後送給老婆。老婆見到鑽石項鍊很驚喜，也笑的很開心，但是死神卻告訴富翁，這根本就不是真心笑容！富翁感到很奇怪，於是他又加把勁，送了老婆房子，車子，鑽戒，所有女人想要的東西他都買了，奇怪的是，老婆雖然高興，卻都不符合真心笑容的條件。就這樣過了三天，富翁越來越慌張，因為時間只有七天，他卻連一個老婆真心笑容都得不到，直到第四天早上，富翁起的很早，他想到自己快要死了，也沒什麼東西給老婆，煩惱中他不自覺的走到廚房，拿起平底鍋，打了兩個蛋，烤了土司，開始作早餐。他老婆起床，看到富翁在做早餐，大吃一驚，因為他們明明有很多傭人，富翁根本不用自己作早餐啊。富翁把早餐端上桌，老婆吃了一口，突然眼眶泛紅，然後笑了起來，「親愛的，你還記得我們剛開始創業的時候，沒有錢，你都會作早餐，我們就是吃這樣的簡單早餐喔。」!這時候，富翁突然發現，老婆的笑容好美，一早起來的她雖然沒有化妝，笑! 容卻美的讓人心動，富翁突然明白，這幾年來他從來沒有好好陪過他的妻子 ，都忘記她真正開心的模樣了。
★於是，富翁得到了第一個真心笑容。接著富翁回到公司，他決定要把第二個真心笑容，交付給跟他一個非常信任的部屬，於是富翁把部屬叫了過來，對他說：「我決定要升你的官，讓你當副總裁，然後給你股票和獎金！」部屬非常驚喜，臉上堆欣，對富翁連連感謝，可是，富翁卻發現那部屬的笑容還不是真心的笑容。富翁後來又開了很多優渥的條件，給了更多的獎金和股票，可是部屬雖然高興，富翁還是沒看到他的真心笑容。時間又過了三天，直到第七天的早上，富翁把部屬叫了過來，遞給部屬一張假單還有五張機票。「你為我賣命這麼久，我才發現沒有讓你好好的放假陪家人，我給你一個月的長假，這是五張到夏威夷機票，帶你的老婆和孩子一起去玩吧！」部屬先是吃驚，然後臉上嚴肅的表情慢慢變了，變得柔和而溫暖，一個笑容在他了臉上綻放開，那是很輕鬆很輕鬆的笑，淺淺的微笑，但是讓人一看就覺得很舒服。「是啊，我真的好久好久沒有跟孩子去玩了，他們都快認不得這個老爸了！」
★富翁鬆了一口氣，原來這才是部屬真心想要的，這是第二個真心笑容。可是好不容易得到第二個真心笑容，時間卻已經剩下不到一天了.富翁想了想，覺得時間已經來不及了，無論是老婆或是部屬，都花去他太多時間了，看樣子，他註定要下地獄了。想到要下地獄，富翁有點難過，他決定脫下西裝到外頭走走，對日理萬機的富翁來說，這樣一個人四處閒晃的經驗，幾乎是不可能的！平常他出門一定是坐高級的賓士車，身邊一堆保鏢，手邊總是有著處理不完的公文，真的沒什麼機會一個人在台北街頭慢慢走。富翁想說，反正再過幾個小時，他就要被死神抓去地獄了，所以他也不想掙扎了，只是在路上悠閒的走著。走著走著，富翁突然看到了一個小女孩蹲在路邊哭，而周圍的路人卻沒有人願意伸出援手幫助她，富翁想說，反正我也沒多少時間好活了，就幫幫小女孩好了。於是，富翁把小女孩帶去警局，做了記錄，等小女孩的父母親來接她，在等待的這段時間，富翁一直看著時間，他心裡是有點焦急的，因為離死神來接他的時間越來越近了，而他卻只能枯坐在警局中。後來富翁就一直陪著小女孩，直到小女孩的父母終於趕來，三個人哭了起來，抱成一團，富翁看著這一幕，突然感到一陣打從心裡升起的溫暖，啊！原來單純的幫助別人，是這麼美好的一件事啊！然後，他看到了死神出現在警察局。富翁嘆了一口氣，知道自己要被抓去地獄了。他伸出雙手，準備讓死神銬上手銬。可是，死神卻意外的搖了搖頭，「你不是要跟我去地獄，你可以上天堂了。」富翁睜大眼睛，他不懂。「第三個真心笑容。」死神拿出了一面鏡子，放在富翁的面前說「其實老早就出現了。」富翁看著鏡子中的自己，原本嚴肅繃緊的表情，竟然整個鬆開了，一雙殘酷的眼睛變得像小孩般清澈，最重要的是，他的嘴角竟然不知不覺微微上揚著，彷彿不是一個掌握大權的總裁，而是一個親切慈祥的老人。
★「原來，第三個真心笑容是我自己....」很棒ㄉ一段故事～～與你分享喔！！再忙也要跟你喝一杯．．．．．願你都平安順心喔！！我們總是太忙，忙的時候會忽略身邊很簡單的人、事、物，有時候反而會以"事"為本。加油噢！夥伴們。
每天朝九晚五的工作模式 您厭倦嗎?及要看客戶或老闆臉色做事 你喘得過氣嗎?為了配合工作而犧牲掉自己的休息和家人相處的時間要放棄原本屬於你自己應該有的健康與休閒時間您願意就這樣忙茫盲的工作下去或許您從來沒想過這個問題為你自己也該為您的家人及孩子計劃一下每個人都應該有自己的夢想與目標還是只是放在心裡空想 那夢想永遠只是夢想打破傳統的創業模式 顛覆傳統固定的行銷技巧只要你相信 不要懷疑 你一定辦的到
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Thursday, September 3, 2009
Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle.It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by
how you react.What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.How? ……….By your reaction.You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.Let's use an example.You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.What happens next will be determined by how you react.You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.Why did you have a bad day?A) Did the coffee cause it?B) Did your daughter cause it?C) Did the policeman cause it?D) Did you cause it?The answer is “D".You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.Here is what could have and should have happened.Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.Notice the difference?Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.Why?Because of how you REACTED.You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.You are told you lost your job.Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.The result?Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.It CAN change your life!!!Enjoy
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by
how you react.What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.How? ……….By your reaction.You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.Let's use an example.You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.What happens next will be determined by how you react.You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.Why did you have a bad day?A) Did the coffee cause it?B) Did your daughter cause it?C) Did the policeman cause it?D) Did you cause it?The answer is “D".You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.Here is what could have and should have happened.Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.Notice the difference?Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.Why?Because of how you REACTED.You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.You are told you lost your job.Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.The result?Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.It CAN change your life!!!Enjoy
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有一對小姐妹每天放學後，一定會一起到我們的便利商店光顧， 因為這對姐妹乍看之下與其他人並無不同，甚至普通到讓人過目即忘，直到我見識到她們之間相處模式那一刻開始。
這個姐姐的外表看來文文靜靜，但脾氣卻異常火爆，每次到店裡來，總會看見她嚴厲的對妹妹進行「機會教育」，
最常聽見的有；
「妳是笨蛋嗎？這個快要到期了，還拿。」 要不然就是：
「妳是白癡呀！明明寫買一送一，妳還只拿一個。」更狠的還有：
「妳這隻豬，金額超過了妳不會算嗎？」等等之類的。
那個挨罵的妹妹，居然一聲也不吭的就任由姐姐罵，還依然氣定神閒的挑選她想要的東西，且絲毫不受影響。
某天又到了放學時間，但令人意外的是這天只有妹妹一個人來，我見那個潑辣的姐姐不在，於是便和她聊起天來。
「妹妹，今天怎麼只有妳一個人？」我問。
「姐姐感冒了，所以請假。」妹妹朝我一笑，樣子相當可愛。
「我覺得妳姐姐好兇喔！」我試探性的表示。
「還好啦！不要理她就好了。」妹妹在賣場逛著，神情相當愉快。
「可是她每天都那樣罵妳，妳不生氣嗎？」我好奇的問。
「愛生氣的人是她又不是我，而且被罵一下又不會痛。」妺妹嘟嘟嘴道。
是嗎？小小年紀居然可以這麼豁達，真是不可思議，反觀自己，也許是從小就養尊處優慣了，所以現在才會稍微被責備一下就難過得想死，吃了點虧就非得要據理力爭不可，在精神層面她真是比我強太多了.......。
「阿姨，我要買這個。」妹妹拿著一支冰棒到櫃檯來結帳了，我一看正好是促銷品，於是對她道：
「妹妹，這個現在買一送一喔！妳可以再去拿一支。」
我以為她的反應一定和其他小朋友一樣，先是眼睛一亮然後滿心歡喜，不料她卻對我說：
「可是我現在只想吃一支就好，另外一支就送給別人好了。」說完對我揮揮手便走了。
看著妹妹一蹦一跳的離去，我忽然有很深的感觸，這個小女孩太特別了，甚至讓我覺得在某方面我必須向她學習，
挨罵，她可以不在意；多的，她也不貪心，如果有人都能以這麼簡單、純真的心來面對這世界，我想紛爭與悲劇應該就可以終止了吧！
一個人的快樂，不是因為他擁有的多，而是因為他計較的少。
這個姐姐的外表看來文文靜靜，但脾氣卻異常火爆，每次到店裡來，總會看見她嚴厲的對妹妹進行「機會教育」，
最常聽見的有；
「妳是笨蛋嗎？這個快要到期了，還拿。」 要不然就是：
「妳是白癡呀！明明寫買一送一，妳還只拿一個。」更狠的還有：
「妳這隻豬，金額超過了妳不會算嗎？」等等之類的。
那個挨罵的妹妹，居然一聲也不吭的就任由姐姐罵，還依然氣定神閒的挑選她想要的東西，且絲毫不受影響。
某天又到了放學時間，但令人意外的是這天只有妹妹一個人來，我見那個潑辣的姐姐不在，於是便和她聊起天來。
「妹妹，今天怎麼只有妳一個人？」我問。
「姐姐感冒了，所以請假。」妹妹朝我一笑，樣子相當可愛。
「我覺得妳姐姐好兇喔！」我試探性的表示。
「還好啦！不要理她就好了。」妹妹在賣場逛著，神情相當愉快。
「可是她每天都那樣罵妳，妳不生氣嗎？」我好奇的問。
「愛生氣的人是她又不是我，而且被罵一下又不會痛。」妺妹嘟嘟嘴道。
是嗎？小小年紀居然可以這麼豁達，真是不可思議，反觀自己，也許是從小就養尊處優慣了，所以現在才會稍微被責備一下就難過得想死，吃了點虧就非得要據理力爭不可，在精神層面她真是比我強太多了.......。
「阿姨，我要買這個。」妹妹拿著一支冰棒到櫃檯來結帳了，我一看正好是促銷品，於是對她道：
「妹妹，這個現在買一送一喔！妳可以再去拿一支。」
我以為她的反應一定和其他小朋友一樣，先是眼睛一亮然後滿心歡喜，不料她卻對我說：
「可是我現在只想吃一支就好，另外一支就送給別人好了。」說完對我揮揮手便走了。
看著妹妹一蹦一跳的離去，我忽然有很深的感觸，這個小女孩太特別了，甚至讓我覺得在某方面我必須向她學習，
挨罵，她可以不在意；多的，她也不貪心，如果有人都能以這麼簡單、純真的心來面對這世界，我想紛爭與悲劇應該就可以終止了吧！
一個人的快樂，不是因為他擁有的多，而是因為他計較的少。
花贩的话
有一位花販告訴我：
幾乎是所有的白花都很香，愈是顏色豔麗的花愈是缺乏芬芳。」
他的結論是：「人也是一樣，愈樸素單純的人，愈有內在的芳香。」
☆有一位花販告訴我：
「夜來香其實白天也很香，但是很少聞得到。」
他的結論是：「因為白天人的心太浮了，聞不到夜來香的香氣。如果一個人白天的心也很沉靜，就會發現夜來香、桂花、七里香，連酷熱的中午也是香的。」
☆有一位花販告訴我：
「清晨買蓮花一定要挑那些盛開的。」他的結論是：「早上是蓮花開放最好的時間，如果一朵蓮花早上不開，可能中午和晚上都不開了。我們看人也是一樣，一個人在年輕的時候沒有志氣，中年或晚年就更難有志氣了。」
☆有一位花販告訴我：
他的結論是：「愈是昂貴的花愈容易凋謝，那是為了要向買花的人說明：『要珍惜青春呀，因為青春是最名貴的花，最容易凋謝』。」
☆有一位花販告訴我： 他的結論是：「每一株玫瑰都有刺。」
「正如每一個人的性格中，都有你不能容忍的部份。只能學習如何不被它的刺，刺傷，還有，如何不讓自己的刺，刺傷心愛的人。」
幾乎是所有的白花都很香，愈是顏色豔麗的花愈是缺乏芬芳。」
他的結論是：「人也是一樣，愈樸素單純的人，愈有內在的芳香。」
☆有一位花販告訴我：
「夜來香其實白天也很香，但是很少聞得到。」
他的結論是：「因為白天人的心太浮了，聞不到夜來香的香氣。如果一個人白天的心也很沉靜，就會發現夜來香、桂花、七里香，連酷熱的中午也是香的。」
☆有一位花販告訴我：
「清晨買蓮花一定要挑那些盛開的。」他的結論是：「早上是蓮花開放最好的時間，如果一朵蓮花早上不開，可能中午和晚上都不開了。我們看人也是一樣，一個人在年輕的時候沒有志氣，中年或晚年就更難有志氣了。」
☆有一位花販告訴我：
他的結論是：「愈是昂貴的花愈容易凋謝，那是為了要向買花的人說明：『要珍惜青春呀，因為青春是最名貴的花，最容易凋謝』。」
☆有一位花販告訴我： 他的結論是：「每一株玫瑰都有刺。」
「正如每一個人的性格中，都有你不能容忍的部份。只能學習如何不被它的刺，刺傷，還有，如何不讓自己的刺，刺傷心愛的人。」
智慧
一位老員外，特別喜歡牡丹花，庭內庭外都種滿了牡丹。
老員外採了幾朵牡丹花，送給一位老翁，老翁很開心的插在花瓶裡。
隔天，鄰居激動的和老翁說：『你的牡丹花，每一朵都缺了幾片花瓣，這不是富貴不全嗎？』
老翁總覺得不妥，就把牡丹花全部還給老員外。老翁一五一十的告訴老員外，關於富貴不全的事情。
老員外忍不住笑說：『牡丹花缺了幾片花瓣，這不是富貴無邊嗎？』
老翁聽了頗有同感，選了更多的牡丹花，開心的走了。
有智慧的人，不會和不同角度的人爭吵，
因為每個人站的角度不同，說話的方式自然就有所差異，
不管意見和你是否接近，每個角度的意見都值得去採納。
親愛的朋友，多往積極的層面去思考，你會發現自己充滿活潑朝氣
，學到的知識更多，任何問題都浮現著隱約的答案。
重要的不是你站的角度，而是你思想的廣度。
老員外採了幾朵牡丹花，送給一位老翁，老翁很開心的插在花瓶裡。
隔天，鄰居激動的和老翁說：『你的牡丹花，每一朵都缺了幾片花瓣，這不是富貴不全嗎？』
老翁總覺得不妥，就把牡丹花全部還給老員外。老翁一五一十的告訴老員外，關於富貴不全的事情。
老員外忍不住笑說：『牡丹花缺了幾片花瓣，這不是富貴無邊嗎？』
老翁聽了頗有同感，選了更多的牡丹花，開心的走了。
有智慧的人，不會和不同角度的人爭吵，
因為每個人站的角度不同，說話的方式自然就有所差異，
不管意見和你是否接近，每個角度的意見都值得去採納。
親愛的朋友，多往積極的層面去思考，你會發現自己充滿活潑朝氣
，學到的知識更多，任何問題都浮現著隱約的答案。
重要的不是你站的角度，而是你思想的廣度。
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
听了好多回的故事，我做到了吗？
The story goes that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: "Today my best friend slapped me in the face."
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: "Today my best friend saved my life."
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now you write on a stone. Why?"
The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but an entire life to forget them.
Take the time to live.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: "Today my best friend slapped me in the face."
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: "Today my best friend saved my life."
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now you write on a stone. Why?"
The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but an entire life to forget them.
Take the time to live.
我回来了！！！
原来被期待是一种幸福，同时，也可能是一种负担。。哈。。哈。。
每次来到这里就感觉心柔软了，人活过来了。谢谢你们让我再次体会。
失恋，要面对和处理的情绪有几种，其中包括了感觉尊严被践踏和背叛。
对于被一个曾经真心付出的人背叛是很痛的，对人失去了信心，对自己也开始失去了信心。不敢再相信别人，怀疑自己的好。。这些都会出现。
记得曾经跟大家分享过一个小故事。有一个女孩失恋了在河边哭得很伤心，甚至想要结束生命。遇见了一位老人，老人告诉她说：在你还没遇见这个男孩之前不是活得很开心，失去他之后和在没有遇见他之前的你还是一样，经历多了应该觉得高兴。不要为一个不爱你的人哭泣，应该是他要为了失去一个爱他的人哭泣。爱人的人永远是最坚强的，因为她有能力再去爱其他人。
frances, 对于自己坚持做乖孩子这么多年开始怀疑，想要坏一坏。我了解。我也曾经有过挣扎，最后的结论是，终有一天有人会看到我们的好。物以类聚，当你使坏，就会遇上坏人，到时你会鄙视自己。
那天再看节目时章子怡说当她在沙漠拍戏时，看到满天星斗有一种想哭的感觉。我突然有了感想。如果是我，我会很开心，甚至对自己微笑。为什么会有如此不同的感觉？我想，当你在沙漠中看着星斗，你会发觉原来生活中的快乐很简单，就是对自己感觉美好。物质，名利都不重要。也许，她哭是感伤在面对自己时，对于自己曾经做过的事并不赞同。在物质生活底下，我们会迷失。只有在真诚面对自己时，才知道快乐是什么。不管在人前多么风光，每个人心中都有一把尺。要不要使坏？就看你要怎样的人生了。
小忠说对了，我门要注重过程而不是结果。不要因为结果不如预期而否定一切。
得到未必是福，失去未必是祸。
活在当下，珍惜现在。
谁是最重要的人？
什么是最重要的事？
你的前面这一位是你最重要的人
你现在做着的是最重要的事
只要
你好好对待你前面的这个人
好好做完现在做着的事
就是活在当下
不要为失去的伤心，不要为未发生的担忧
那些都不重要。
它们只会让我们一再错过生命。
我在学着，希望你也一同学习。
每次来到这里就感觉心柔软了，人活过来了。谢谢你们让我再次体会。
失恋，要面对和处理的情绪有几种，其中包括了感觉尊严被践踏和背叛。
对于被一个曾经真心付出的人背叛是很痛的，对人失去了信心，对自己也开始失去了信心。不敢再相信别人，怀疑自己的好。。这些都会出现。
记得曾经跟大家分享过一个小故事。有一个女孩失恋了在河边哭得很伤心，甚至想要结束生命。遇见了一位老人，老人告诉她说：在你还没遇见这个男孩之前不是活得很开心，失去他之后和在没有遇见他之前的你还是一样，经历多了应该觉得高兴。不要为一个不爱你的人哭泣，应该是他要为了失去一个爱他的人哭泣。爱人的人永远是最坚强的，因为她有能力再去爱其他人。
frances, 对于自己坚持做乖孩子这么多年开始怀疑，想要坏一坏。我了解。我也曾经有过挣扎，最后的结论是，终有一天有人会看到我们的好。物以类聚，当你使坏，就会遇上坏人，到时你会鄙视自己。
那天再看节目时章子怡说当她在沙漠拍戏时，看到满天星斗有一种想哭的感觉。我突然有了感想。如果是我，我会很开心，甚至对自己微笑。为什么会有如此不同的感觉？我想，当你在沙漠中看着星斗，你会发觉原来生活中的快乐很简单，就是对自己感觉美好。物质，名利都不重要。也许，她哭是感伤在面对自己时，对于自己曾经做过的事并不赞同。在物质生活底下，我们会迷失。只有在真诚面对自己时，才知道快乐是什么。不管在人前多么风光，每个人心中都有一把尺。要不要使坏？就看你要怎样的人生了。
小忠说对了，我门要注重过程而不是结果。不要因为结果不如预期而否定一切。
得到未必是福，失去未必是祸。
活在当下，珍惜现在。
谁是最重要的人？
什么是最重要的事？
你的前面这一位是你最重要的人
你现在做着的是最重要的事
只要
你好好对待你前面的这个人
好好做完现在做着的事
就是活在当下
不要为失去的伤心，不要为未发生的担忧
那些都不重要。
它们只会让我们一再错过生命。
我在学着，希望你也一同学习。
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