对了,已经到了岁末。又是来到回顾和展望的时刻。每每来到这个时刻都是百感交集,懊悔没做的,害怕期待的又无法实现。期待生活会有所改变却还是老样子。我时常跟朋友说起,如果在好多好多年后你还是一样,那么你是幸福的,因为身边的人一定非常包容让你能够保持不变。不变是好事吗?我觉得能够保有一颗赤子之心是难得和幸运的,也是一种难能可贵的坚持。
今天到购物广场去办点事,谷中城这间购物广场是出了名泊车麻烦。因为今天有时间又有事非办不可所以就算指示牌显示满座都要进去。直下最底层的停车场就看到一辆车子要离开,真幸运。可是看看是留给残障人士的,开车的那个人当我跟他确定时不知嘀咕了些什么,感觉上好像有些恼羞成怒说这你不泊还有其他人泊呢。这个年轻人四肢正常。我驾开了车子,幸运的马上找到了位子。我还阿Q的对自己说好人有好报。
这件小事给了怎样的启发?在我们选择的过程中,我们会在不知不觉中剥削了别人的权利,只为了个人的利益吗?我记得我曾看到的一句话:成功就是每天做对的事情所累积的成果。我很高兴没有霸占了那个车位,间中是有小小的挣扎的,最后还是做了对的事情。
其实我并不是那么的伟大,我也会做错的事情。好比如果车子在退后时如果碰到别的车子的话我是不会大方的留下字条要车主找我赔偿。如果要确保车子不会或减少招到碰撞的话,就应该把车子泊好,不要胡乱泊车。我们这里的文化是你活该,车子被碰也从来没收到字条。这就是错的事情已经变成大家都在做而被默认了。生活里又有多少这样的例子呢?
在生活中,工作中或人事中曾经有过挣扎吗?会不会就是一直漠视这些小小的改变而在有一天突然发觉你已不认识自己?
共勉之
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
艰难的抉择
What do you think? Inspiring?
Insight into Decision Making - Good One:
A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track. The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way? Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make........
Scroll down
Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.
But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place? Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.
The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids.
While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one. 'Remember that what's right isn't always popular... and what's popular isn't always right.'
Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils.
非常棒及引人深思的文章。好好的看,好好的想。你是否也犯了大家都在犯的错?
Insight into Decision Making - Good One:
A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track. The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way? Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make........
Scroll down
Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.
But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place? Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.
The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids.
While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one. 'Remember that what's right isn't always popular... and what's popular isn't always right.'
Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils.
非常棒及引人深思的文章。好好的看,好好的想。你是否也犯了大家都在犯的错?
垃圾車定律The Law of the Garbage Truck
One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car drove out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.
有一天,我跳上一輛計程車,打算到機場。正當我們開上正確的車道時,突然間一輛黑色轎車從停車位開出,正好擋在我們前面。我的計程車司機立即踩剎車,車子滑行了一小段路,剛好閃開來車,兩車之間的距離就只差個幾英吋!另一輛車的駕駛兇狠地甩頭,並且朝著我們大喊大叫。
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly. So I asked, “Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!” This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
我的計程車司機只是微笑,對那傢伙揮揮手。我的意思是說,他表現得很友善。於是我問:「你剛才為什麼那麼做?那傢伙差點毀了你的車,還可能害我們受傷送醫院!」這是當時我的計程車司機告訴我的話,現在我就稱呼它為「垃圾車定律」。
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So....Love the people who treat you right. Ignore the ones who don't. Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!
他解釋說:許多人就像垃圾車。他們到處跑來跑去,身上充滿了垃圾、充滿了沮喪、充滿了憤怒、和充滿了失望。隨著垃圾堆積,他們終需找個地方傾倒;有時候,我們剛好碰上了,垃圾就往我們身上丟,所以,不要介意,只要微笑、揮揮手、祝福他們,然後繼續走我們自己的路就行;千萬別將他們的垃圾擴散給同事、家人、或其他路人。
這兒的底線是:成功的人絕對不讓垃圾車接管自己生活當中的任何一天;人生苦短,早上醒來絕對不要帶著遺憾。所以....仁愛對待與你以禮相待的人;不用去理會那群無理取恼者。生命只有10%由自己決定,但90%看你如何利用它!
Have a marvelous, garbage-free day! The seeds you plant today, determine the harvest you reap tom orrow.
過一個奇妙的、沒有垃圾的日子吧!你今天所裁植的種子,會決定你明天的收穫。
有时候我也是垃圾车,你呢?哈哈。。。。知错能改,善莫大焉。
有一天,我跳上一輛計程車,打算到機場。正當我們開上正確的車道時,突然間一輛黑色轎車從停車位開出,正好擋在我們前面。我的計程車司機立即踩剎車,車子滑行了一小段路,剛好閃開來車,兩車之間的距離就只差個幾英吋!另一輛車的駕駛兇狠地甩頭,並且朝著我們大喊大叫。
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly. So I asked, “Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!” This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
我的計程車司機只是微笑,對那傢伙揮揮手。我的意思是說,他表現得很友善。於是我問:「你剛才為什麼那麼做?那傢伙差點毀了你的車,還可能害我們受傷送醫院!」這是當時我的計程車司機告訴我的話,現在我就稱呼它為「垃圾車定律」。
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So....Love the people who treat you right. Ignore the ones who don't. Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!
他解釋說:許多人就像垃圾車。他們到處跑來跑去,身上充滿了垃圾、充滿了沮喪、充滿了憤怒、和充滿了失望。隨著垃圾堆積,他們終需找個地方傾倒;有時候,我們剛好碰上了,垃圾就往我們身上丟,所以,不要介意,只要微笑、揮揮手、祝福他們,然後繼續走我們自己的路就行;千萬別將他們的垃圾擴散給同事、家人、或其他路人。
這兒的底線是:成功的人絕對不讓垃圾車接管自己生活當中的任何一天;人生苦短,早上醒來絕對不要帶著遺憾。所以....仁愛對待與你以禮相待的人;不用去理會那群無理取恼者。生命只有10%由自己決定,但90%看你如何利用它!
Have a marvelous, garbage-free day! The seeds you plant today, determine the harvest you reap tom orrow.
過一個奇妙的、沒有垃圾的日子吧!你今天所裁植的種子,會決定你明天的收穫。
有时候我也是垃圾车,你呢?哈哈。。。。知错能改,善莫大焉。
06-09-2010
11-11-2010
Thursday, September 23, 2010
生命若不在現在,那是何時?
你可曾想過 : 當你汲汲營營的為了工作而加班, 或者為了考上研究所而挑燈夜戰時在背後真正的目的是什麼??? 人爬得越高,車子也越大。 長久以來,大家都是如此地在社會中「進化」。 升大學時,我告別了單車族,靠家教收入成為機車族, 當超越同學的單車,呼嘯而過時,心中隱隱有股優越感。 出社會後,賣命工作一段時間,我很快地進化為「汽車族」 。 每遇紅燈,車停路口時,看著旁邊日曬雨淋的機車騎士, 我是三分悲憫,七分驕傲。 不久前,旅行到峇里島,這種「進化論」終於被「當頭棒喝 」。 有天,很不幸地,眼鏡摔破了;沮喪地中斷行程,叫計程車 回旅館。 在車上打聽一下,何處可修眼鏡? 司機說,附近都沒有眼鏡行,只有到首府「淡巴沙」才能修 。 我不禁嘆道:「你們這裡真不方便。」 司機則笑著說:「這裡的人很少近視,倒不會感到不方便。 」 聽這司機談吐不俗,我決定包他一天車,到「淡巴沙」修眼 鏡,兼市區觀光。 他猶豫了幾分鐘,才說:「那我明早八點到旅館接你。」 隔天,在「淡巴沙」逛了一上午,發覺此處無啥可觀; 我想打道回府,下午就在旅館游泳、休息。 但是想到司機為接生意,必然推掉許多原有計畫,就難以啟 齒。 掙扎甚久,我結結巴巴地說:「對不起,司機 先生, 我想改成只包半天,不知會不會對你造成困擾?」 沒想到司機竟喜出望外地說:「一點都不會。 昨天,你要包一整天車,我很猶豫, 如果不是因為跟你談得來,我是不接受包整天車的。」 我困惑地問:「為什麼?」 他答:「 我設定一個工作目標,每天只要做到六百元台幣,我就收工, 你用一千二台幣包一整天,那我就沒有自己的時間了。」 「你可以儲錢,隔天休息呀?」 他笑著說:「先是做一整天再休息,然後就變成做一個月、 做一整年再休息;最後是做一輩子,終生不得休息。工作也 會習慣的。」 我問:「那你們閒著幹嘛呢?時間那麼多,不會無聊嗎?」 他看著我,像遇到外星人一樣,說:「這裡那麼好玩,怎會 無聊? 峇里島每家都養鬥雞,收工後,我們就鬥鬥雞、放放風箏, 到沙灘打打排球,游游泳呀!」 這時我想到一則笑話:一個美國人到大溪地度假,當大溪地 人賣力地幫他按摩時,老美滿心優越感,滿臉悲憫地說:「如果你們上進點、積極點、勤快點,你們也可以像我們一樣 到大溪地度假呀!」 大溪地人一臉疑惑地說:「你辛苦一年,只為了到大溪地過 兩星期日子,我卻是一整年在大溪地享受生活的,我為什麼 要學你?」 從峇里島回台灣後,司機的話就像禪宗語錄,不斷在腦海盤 旋。 突然覺得前半輩子完全「誤入歧途」。 再繼續「進化」下去,可以想見房子應越換越大,大到無力 打掃,再請菲傭; 為了養房貸與菲傭,只好拚命工作,有家歸不得。 那麼大房子又有何意義? 開車時,我也想:以車代步,四體不勤,搞得日漸臃腫, 只好買個腳踏車或踏步機放在臥室踩。 但時忙,時懶,難以有恆;那何不乾脆騎單車上班,爬樓梯 踏步呢? 在峇里島治好了文明的近視之後,人生境界豁然開朗, 步調一放慢,視野更寬,也更清楚。 人生過程中您是否也是汲汲營營隨波逐流呢? 何妨停下腳步抬起頭來看一下方向對否,這是否是您所要的人生? 忙的時後,想要休息 ; 渡假的時後, 想到未來; 窮的時後,渴望富有; 生活安逸了,擔心結果不如預期; 看明白了,後悔當初沒有下定決心 ; 不屬於自己的,常常心存慾望; 握在手裡了,又懷念未擁有前的輕鬆 ; 生命若不是現在, 那是何時 !! 愈是簡單的快樂, 愈可以經久不變, 不用苦苦追求快樂,就是一種幸福喔!!!
幸福有時候只需要一個台階
那年,她剛剛25歲,鮮活水嫩的青春襯著,人如綻放在水中的白蓮花,唯一的不足是個子太矮,穿上高跟鞋也不過一米五多點兒, 卻心高氣傲地非要嫁個條件好的。
是相親認識的他,180cm的個頭,魁梧挺拔,劍眉朗目,她第一眼便喜歡上了。隔著一張桌子坐著,卻低著頭不敢看他,兩隻手反覆撫弄衣角,心像揣了免子,左衝右撞,心跳如鼓。兩個人馬上看對眼就愛上了,日子如同蜜裡調油,恨不得24小時都黏在一起。
兩個人拉著手去逛街,樓下的大爺眼花,有一次見了他就問:「送孩子上學啊?」他鎮定自若地應著,卻拉她一直跑出好遠,才憋不住笑出來。
他沒有大房子,她也心甘情願地嫁了他,拍結婚照時,兩個人站在一起,她還不及他的肩膀。她有些難為情,他笑,沒說她矮,卻自嘲是不是自己太高了?攝影師把他們帶到有台階的背景前,指著他說「你往下站一個台階。」
他下了一個台階,她從後面環住他的腰,頭靠在他的肩上,附在他耳邊悄聲說「你看,你下個台階我們的心就在同一個高度上了。」
結婚後的日子就像漲了潮的海水,各自繁忙的工作、沒完沒了的家務、孩子的奶瓶尿布、數不盡的瑣事,一浪接著一浪洶湧而來,讓人措手不及。漸漸地便有了矛盾和爭吵,有了哭鬧和糾纏。
第一次吵架,她任性地摔門而去,走到外面才發現無處可去。只好又折回來,躲在樓梯口,聽著他慌慌張張地跑下來,聽聲音就能判斷出,他一次跳了二個台階。最後一級台階,他踩空了,整個人撞在欄杆上,「哎喲哎喲」地叫。她看著他的狼狽樣,終於沒忍住,捂嘴笑著從樓梯口跑出來。
她伸手去拉他,卻被他用力一拽,跌進他的懷裡。他捏捏她的鼻子說「以後再吵架,記住也不要走遠,就躲在樓梯口,等我來找你。」她被他牽著手回家,心想,真好啊,連吵架都這麼有滋有味的。
第2次吵架是在街上,為買一件什麼東西,一個堅持要買、一個堅持不要買,爭著爭著她就惱了,摔手就走。走了幾步後躲進一家超市,從櫥窗裡觀察他的動靜。以為他會追過來,卻沒有。他在原地待了幾分鐘後,就若無其事地走了。她又氣又恨,懷著一腔怒火回家,推開門,他雙腿蹺在茶几上看電視。看見她回來,仍然若無其事地招呼她:「回來了,等你一起吃飯呢。」
他攬著她的腰去餐廳,挨個揭開盤子上的蓋,一桌子的菜都是她喜歡吃的。她一邊把紅燒雞翅咂得滿嘴流油,一邊憤怒地質問他:「為什麼不追我就自己回來了?」
他說:「你沒有帶家裡的鑰匙,我怕萬一你先回來了進不了門;又怕你回來餓,就先做了飯。我這可都下了兩個台階了,不知道能否跟大小姐站齊了?」她撲哧就笑了,所有的不快全都煙消雲散。
這樣的吵鬧不斷地發生,終於有了最凶的一次。他打牌一夜未歸,孩子又碰上發了高燒,給他打電話,關機。她一個人帶孩子去了醫院,第二天早上他一進門,她窩了一肚子的火霹靂啪啦地就爆發了……。這一次是他離開了,他說吵來吵去,他累了!收拾了東西,自己搬到單位的宿舍裡去住,留下她一個人,面對著冰冷而狼藉的家,心涼如水。想到以前每次吵架都是他百般勸慰,主動下台階跟她求和,現在,他終於厭倦了,愛情走到了盡頭,他再也不肯努力去找台階了。
那天晚上,她輾轉難眠,無聊中打開相冊,第一頁就是他們的結婚照。她的頭親密地靠在他的肩上,兩張笑臉像花一樣綻放著。從照片上看不出她比他矮那麼多,可是她知道,他們之間還隔著一個台階。她拿著那張照片,忽然想到,每次吵架都是他主動下台階,而她卻從未主動去上一個台階。為什麼呢?難道有他的包容,就可以放縱自己的任性嗎?婚姻是兩個人的,總是他一個人在下台階,距離當然越來越遠,心也會越來越遠。其實,她上一個台階,也可以和他一樣高的啊!她終於撥了他的電話,只響了一聲,他便接了。原來...他一直都在等她去上這個台階。
幸福有時候只需要一個台階,無論是誰下來、誰上去,只要兩個人的心在同一個高度和諧地振動,那就是幸福。
是相親認識的他,180cm的個頭,魁梧挺拔,劍眉朗目,她第一眼便喜歡上了。隔著一張桌子坐著,卻低著頭不敢看他,兩隻手反覆撫弄衣角,心像揣了免子,左衝右撞,心跳如鼓。兩個人馬上看對眼就愛上了,日子如同蜜裡調油,恨不得24小時都黏在一起。
兩個人拉著手去逛街,樓下的大爺眼花,有一次見了他就問:「送孩子上學啊?」他鎮定自若地應著,卻拉她一直跑出好遠,才憋不住笑出來。
他沒有大房子,她也心甘情願地嫁了他,拍結婚照時,兩個人站在一起,她還不及他的肩膀。她有些難為情,他笑,沒說她矮,卻自嘲是不是自己太高了?攝影師把他們帶到有台階的背景前,指著他說「你往下站一個台階。」
他下了一個台階,她從後面環住他的腰,頭靠在他的肩上,附在他耳邊悄聲說「你看,你下個台階我們的心就在同一個高度上了。」
結婚後的日子就像漲了潮的海水,各自繁忙的工作、沒完沒了的家務、孩子的奶瓶尿布、數不盡的瑣事,一浪接著一浪洶湧而來,讓人措手不及。漸漸地便有了矛盾和爭吵,有了哭鬧和糾纏。
第一次吵架,她任性地摔門而去,走到外面才發現無處可去。只好又折回來,躲在樓梯口,聽著他慌慌張張地跑下來,聽聲音就能判斷出,他一次跳了二個台階。最後一級台階,他踩空了,整個人撞在欄杆上,「哎喲哎喲」地叫。她看著他的狼狽樣,終於沒忍住,捂嘴笑著從樓梯口跑出來。
她伸手去拉他,卻被他用力一拽,跌進他的懷裡。他捏捏她的鼻子說「以後再吵架,記住也不要走遠,就躲在樓梯口,等我來找你。」她被他牽著手回家,心想,真好啊,連吵架都這麼有滋有味的。
第2次吵架是在街上,為買一件什麼東西,一個堅持要買、一個堅持不要買,爭著爭著她就惱了,摔手就走。走了幾步後躲進一家超市,從櫥窗裡觀察他的動靜。以為他會追過來,卻沒有。他在原地待了幾分鐘後,就若無其事地走了。她又氣又恨,懷著一腔怒火回家,推開門,他雙腿蹺在茶几上看電視。看見她回來,仍然若無其事地招呼她:「回來了,等你一起吃飯呢。」
他攬著她的腰去餐廳,挨個揭開盤子上的蓋,一桌子的菜都是她喜歡吃的。她一邊把紅燒雞翅咂得滿嘴流油,一邊憤怒地質問他:「為什麼不追我就自己回來了?」
他說:「你沒有帶家裡的鑰匙,我怕萬一你先回來了進不了門;又怕你回來餓,就先做了飯。我這可都下了兩個台階了,不知道能否跟大小姐站齊了?」她撲哧就笑了,所有的不快全都煙消雲散。
這樣的吵鬧不斷地發生,終於有了最凶的一次。他打牌一夜未歸,孩子又碰上發了高燒,給他打電話,關機。她一個人帶孩子去了醫院,第二天早上他一進門,她窩了一肚子的火霹靂啪啦地就爆發了……。這一次是他離開了,他說吵來吵去,他累了!收拾了東西,自己搬到單位的宿舍裡去住,留下她一個人,面對著冰冷而狼藉的家,心涼如水。想到以前每次吵架都是他百般勸慰,主動下台階跟她求和,現在,他終於厭倦了,愛情走到了盡頭,他再也不肯努力去找台階了。
那天晚上,她輾轉難眠,無聊中打開相冊,第一頁就是他們的結婚照。她的頭親密地靠在他的肩上,兩張笑臉像花一樣綻放著。從照片上看不出她比他矮那麼多,可是她知道,他們之間還隔著一個台階。她拿著那張照片,忽然想到,每次吵架都是他主動下台階,而她卻從未主動去上一個台階。為什麼呢?難道有他的包容,就可以放縱自己的任性嗎?婚姻是兩個人的,總是他一個人在下台階,距離當然越來越遠,心也會越來越遠。其實,她上一個台階,也可以和他一樣高的啊!她終於撥了他的電話,只響了一聲,他便接了。原來...他一直都在等她去上這個台階。
幸福有時候只需要一個台階,無論是誰下來、誰上去,只要兩個人的心在同一個高度和諧地振動,那就是幸福。
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
